GODMOTHER

AskEMME: GODMOTHER

Q: A family friend asked me to be her son’s godmother. I refused because I didn’t feel that I was at a place in my life where I could be responsible for anyone other than myself. My friend has said that she understands, but I feel that it’s put a strain on our relationship. I am starting to regret my decision.

How do I make it up to both of them?

A: You can start by writing a letter to your friend’s son. Introduce yourself and welcome him into the world. This gesture will mean a lot to your friend, and hopefully bridge the gap that has developed between the two of you. Send a nice gift. Check-in with Mom to see if she needs anything and bring by a meal after she gets home from the hospital which would be greatly appreciated by all. You were right to be up-front about your current situation, but now is the time to show your true colors (the reasons why you were asked to be his godmother in the first place).

With the time you have to offer, give your friend’s son what you can without compromising your personal situation. Just keep on being a good friend, with her life being turned upside down, she needs you now more than he does!

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Originally posted in MODE Magazine © 2016 All rights reserved by Emme Associates, Inc

Gum Snapper

AskEMME: Gum Snapper

Q: My coworker is always chewing gum and it makes me crazy. Not only does she chew loudly, she’s also a snapper. How do I handle this? She is driving me insane.

A: I have to confess I am a snapper, but I know all too well how irritating it can be to witness or be captive to a nonstop, insensitive gum chewer. What are you waiting for? Tell her to get a grip on her urge to snap. When I’m told I chew loudly, I turn red and throw the gum out immediately and think again to chew with anyone else around. If I can handle the feedback, so can she.

What to do if she cops an attitude? Tell her to grow up.

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Originally posted in MODE Magazine © 2016 All rights reserved by Emme Associates, Inc

I DO OR I DON’T

AskEMME: I DO OR I DON’T

Q: I have been dating a married guy for a couple of years and he
just finalized his divorce. (I had nothing to do with the divorce- he had separated before we met.) Now that he is legally unattached my emotions keep fluctuating. Why is this happening?

A: Sometimes what we can’t have is what we want most. The dynamics of your relationship have shifted and the reality of it may not be what you expected. Take a good look at why you were attracted to him in the first place. Don’t rush any decisions you may be making at this time.

Your feelings are valid and it’s important to note (feel) and address what's most important.

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Originally posted in MODE Magazine © 2016 All rights reserved by Emme Associates, Inc