Emmestyle

After a lot's been said and mean spirited songs air on the radio, common jokes abound and Oprah herself being not so kind for her weight "infraction", I took a moment to share my feelings on the subject at CNN's ShowBiz Tonight.

I as well as women around the world treasure Oprah and really give her enormous credit to come out openly about this, but in such a body bashing way? I feel we have all moved forward (mainly thanks to her) leaps and bounds than to revert to this self defeating and depreciating manner, and all for a few pounds? Call me crazy but does this really help us feel more connected to her as women? With out a question, we can relate. We feel her pain, been there and do that. But isn't there a more gentle and loving way to being aware of ourselves despite what happens along the way in life? The better we treat ourselves, easier it is to get back to "the routine". Not the other way around.

Being more fleshy or round or thin or straight is neither right or wrong...we must learn that someway, deeply feel it someday. The question to ask always is, are we healthy? If Oprah feels she is unhealthy, then please show us how to get back to loving feeling strong, empowered and healthy again. To be proud of ourselves to begin again and forgive ourselves for not being so great at balancing. I dont know one person in my life who does anything 100% consistently, do you? I feel there could be some freedom to accept that this is a recurring theme in her life as it is with MILLIONS and MILLIONS of us around the world each year. It is not a news flash that to stay at one weight, it's is not humanly possible (unless you are born with a certain metabolism) no matter the drastic measures we may take. To either force ourselves to remain at too low or bear too heavy a weight, mother nature fixes herself.

It's time, we must accept our bodies not as objects to manipulate but ones to appreciate, feed, exercise and have fun in. Our minds, bodies and souls are attached and housed in what we willing choose to chop, starve, force feed and speak harshly to. Definitely we have a disconnect as a nation here. We all could take a page from Oprah's angst and rage and reconsider how we treat ourselves on a physical level? Would we speak to a good friend like the way we speak to our bodies in the mirror everyday? Perhaps we need to feed ourselves with emotional nutrients more, to laugh when we giggle, to hug and hold our stomachs no matter how flat or round or full and give thanks for handling the past years of neglect. To make promises to cherish no matter what color, shape, or size we happen to be right now, to find gratitude in how we are housed which leads us to finding joy and happiness there too.

We are the only ones who can accept being responsible for how we treat our bodies. Again it all gets down to health. No it's not healthy to fluctuate an enormous amount year in, year out. Yes, we need to go deeper and ask hard questions of our past relationships, belief systems and old themes that still run in our heads today sometimes from 30 years ago. Change is hard, answering hard questions is even harder...but ultimately reality of living the life you have right now is all that counts. I love the saying: stay in the present, it's the best gift of all. God knows, I work and fail and work and fail at this but continue I must because I don't want to miss out on LIFE.

All I have to say is we love you Oprah, take a nice long needed rest and let us take care of ourselves while you find the answers you are looking for and heal.
You certainly deserve it. Know we'll be waiting patiently to hear all that you've learned and might even venture down the road less traveled to find our answers as well!

x